Learning to Let Go, Learning to Trust

Before I had a child, I had always been focussed, purposeful, goal-driven. I invariably achieved most of what I had set out to…and yet, and perhaps it is meant to be so, in my parenting journey and subsequently in much of my life since, I have had to learn and re-learn the lessons of ‘letting go’ and ‘trusting’.

As any parent would tell you, it is impossible to insist and subsequently control the actions and outcomes of your child (or anyone else for that matter), regardless of how well intentioned those outcomes may be.

I say: “You need to be dressed and out of the door in five minutes.” I find, in five minutes, she’s lounging on her bed reading her book.

I say: “You need to know these number bonds.” She says, “Yes, I do know them.” “What’s 5+5?” She looks bored, disinterested, then pipes up “6?”

The list goes on, and I’m sure there isn’t a mother anywhere who has not had these experiences.

And so I’m learning…Learning to let go and trust, that all things will be well in their own time, because let’s be frank, I’ve done the stress, anger, threats, screams, bribes and while they may all work with varying results, ultimately I keep coming back to the fact that these wants, goals and desires are mine, not hers.

And so I’m reminding myself with

Conscious daily reminders

All I have to do today is let go and trust that all will be well.

If anything is going wrong  differently to how I expect it to be, then all the more important it is for me to let go and trust that things are exactly as they should be.

Living mindfully

Each moment in itself is perfect and what I choose to do in each moment is all there is.

I’m letting go of future goals and projections, of long term gains and their associated actions in exchange for living right this minute, right now.

To celebrate in each moment the joy and happiness around me.

At least that’s the goal 😉 (I’m trying)

And I’m learning that inaction or no choice is in itself a choice.

And while I’m not completely comfortable with the ‘Let Go and Trust’ idea, at this point I can’t think of what else to do. Until I do, and I’ll definitely come back and tell you about it, ‘Let go and Trust’ will have to make do.

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Take care and be happy!

We make choices everyday, whether consciously or not. Have you ever thought about what your conscious choices are, everyday?